Hey everyone!
I just wanted to touch base on my previous post. I am getting some comments, so I thought I would let you know where things stand with Ally.
8 years ago, my roomate wanted a dog. Ally just kind of came into our lives. She was really sick at the beginning, but we had managed to get her better and we re-adopted her after a long process.
Since my roomate had never had a dog before, Ally was so special to my roomate. We both agreed that if we were to move out, my roomate would take Ally, and I was going to take the cats. The reason being, that my roomate had a special bond with Ally. She meant everything to my roomate, so I agreed with it, even though I wanted her too. We made the agreement that my roomate would take care of her forever, not just for a short period of time... for forever, just like I did with the cats. My one cat lives with my mom, but that's just because he and my mom's cat are the best of friends, so they ended up staying together after I moved out of my mom's house, and I have the other one (who is not going anywhere).
My roomate and I moved out, and left things between us on bad terms and we have not spoken for about 7 years now. I had said goodbye to Ally, knowing I probably wouldn't see her again. But I trusted that my roomate was going to give her all the love and attention she deserved, just like I would've.
If I had taken Ally, then I wouldn't have gotten a puppy. BF came into my life when Ally wasn't part of it. Him and I have been together for over 4 years now. We are building a life together, and when we got Remy (puppy), I knew in my heart that if anything ever happened, I would take him forever.
After a few years of not hearing from my roomate, I came to the realization that I was never going to see Ally again, and she was happy and loved... so I moved on with my own life. If you could've saw the look on my face when I got the message from my roomate about taking Ally, I was so upset, actually more disappointed in my roomate for not holding up to his end of the deal.
I have talked to my roomate, saying that I cannot take her, but I can help out any time they need me to watch her. I don't know how she and my dog would be together, they have never met. My cat and Ally don't get along (well before at least), and my BF is not supporting me on having another dog. I am in a very very awful position. People say why are you letting your BF dictate your life? Well, what am I suupposed to do? I have people left, right and center telling me not to take her. I own a house with BF, and after many many long fights over the last week about taking Ally, helping my roomate as much as I can, whenever... is the best I can do for now witout sacrificing my own life that I have going on right now.
If it comes down to Ally having to go to a shelter... that will NOT happen. I will have to figure something out, until I can find a good home for her. Who knows... BF has never met her, and doesn't know how amazing she is.. I think if I had the opportunity to help my roomate out with Ally, then maybe BF might change his mind. Who knows! All I can do is hope.
Trust me... I am a huge animal lover. I still have my cats and they aren't going anywhere.. why? because I made the commitment forever. I thought my roomate made the same commitment with Ally, and I was totally wrong. I have asked my roomate if all all options have been exhausted (dog walker, doggie play groups, etc.) I have also told my roomate to really think about this before you decide to give her up for good.
One thing that I don't understand, is that I'm offering all the help possible.. whenever, and my roomate is not returning any of my calls, or text messages. What eles am I supposed to do?
Anyhow, for those of you who want to tell me I shouldn't have gotten her and it's not fair to Ally, well that's your choice, but I am doing everything that I can to see that she is taken care of, even if I have to go pick her up every single day. I would never give up my animals, but I can only do what I can.
If I could, I would adopt every animal out there. I think that's why my own animals at home are so well taken care of, because they are my family and I would do anything for them. I hope my roomate will let me help out, because I think she would be good for Remy too.
Also, my roomate had asked me first before asking others, so with that said, I can't say that I was the last one asked. My roomate wouldn't let her go to a bad home, but I would like to help, because it will give me a chance to see her again! I wonder if she would still remember me?
I think that it's so important when you get an animal, to make sure that you can look after that animal forever! It's not fair to them, and they end up paying the price for it. It's a very sensitive topic for me, that's why I want you all to know that my priority is to give all the help I can with Ally, so she can stay in a loving home and where she's used to being.
Hope everyone has a great day!
xo
Mel
