Yuck, it's like so gross outside today. Raining weather, cold, and in my neighbourhood... muddy! I mean, don't get me wrong, I love when it pours outside, but I hate when it's spitting, or the rain comes and goes...like make up your mind mother nature!!! LOL
So for today's post, it's a little more deeper. I wanted to side track a little into a more deeper post about appreciation, because I think that's hard sometimes for people to remember...maybe men more than women??? LOL, j/k, both actually.
I love doing nice things for people. I love making people feel good about themselves, make people smile etc. Sometimes we all forget appreciation. Whether it's a best friend who throws a beautiful bridal shower for her best bride-to-be, whether a BF or husband bring their GF/wife flowers after they have had a stressful week. It is so important to be thought of and for someone to say " I appreciate you."
After severals years with BF, he has been such a sweetheart. I just love him and am so thankful everyday that he's in my life. With that said, sometimes we forget to show and tell our appreciation for each other. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect a day of Melanie worship or a halo around my head or anything, but sometimes a thank you goes a long way.
I find that in relationships, we forget to make that other person feel the appreciation that we long for, that we crave, that we live our daily lives trying to find. Everyone wants that acknowledgement. It's who we are and what we want out of life. BF and I love each other but if we don't feel appreciated by each other, that's when things build up inside and a fight starts to boil up. To some, it's the little things that count, to others it's when they planned something big, it just depends on what you want to be appreciated for.
To me, I like to feel appreciated by things that I go out of my way to do for BF. When I know that BF has had a long day at work, when I know that he is cranky and hungry, I usually will try and make him dinner FAST when we get home, or if I've been off for the day, have it ready to spoon feed into his mouth when he walks through the door. I mean, BF and I buy our own groceries, but since sometimes we don't get home until 7pm at night, or if BF has hockey until 9pm and hasn't eaten, hunger can show it's ugly head! Having something ready for him when he gets home decreases that evil-ness from showing. Trust me, who wants to be around a cranky, hungry person? NO ONE!!! This makes me feel good to feed his belly when I know he's had a long day and the last thing he wants to do is start his dinner. Even if I just cook or bake something that he loves, or clean up, or take puppy outside in the pouring rain so he doesn't have to, I like to feel appreciated.
For the reverse side, BF is a clean freak and he likes everything in certain places. Me.. well, I'm not the most organized person, but I try to be as clean and tidy as can be. When I come home from work, the last thing I want to do is clean... I want to relax!!!! Well, while I relax and enjoy my shows, BF always preps my morning coffee for me, brings up my clean laundry if I've left it downstairs and does the dishes for me if I've made dinner. A saint you say??? LOL.. well sometimes I forget that, especially when I'm PMSing, or having a bad day. Sometimes I forget to say thank you to him and I really should more. Who gets a thrill cleaning up someone's mess or doing the dishes?? maybe a select few, but those people are just weird..LOL
Whether you're in a relationship or not, it's important to let your family, let your friends, your animals know that you appreciate them. I always give puppy and avery tuna every so often because they love it and I appreciate how happy they make me. Puppy somehow knows when I've had a bad day because he lays off the "let's play" and plays with his own toys himself.
Even my family. My mom helps me out whenever she can and watching puppy when BF and I are away. I appreciate that. I appreciate that after years of me tourturing my younger brother, that he still talks to me... LOL.. Seriously, I appreciate that. I also, really appreciate BF's family for all that they have done for us. They have helped us out so much, especially with driving BF to catch his train in the morning when I'm stuck on night shift. I try to tell them how much I appreciate their help.
All these little things add up. I know that my family, my friends, BF don't say that they need to hear they're appreciated, but they really do. Everyone NEEDS to hear it. I don't mean after everything that they do "pass me a fork" "I appreciate you.." LOL. I just mean, it's good to show someone you care, and you are thankful that they care about you. No matter how lame men may think of this post, I bet you if you show and tell them how much you really appreciate them, it would matter. Guys just think they are so "guy-ish" but they have feelings, they want to be loved, appreciated, cared for. Same with girls. Everyone is equal and everyone should feel that they are working their butts off each day and feel good about it.
Anyhow, I know this is probably a silly little post, but I think it's important to make sure that we remember that life is hard, it really is. We all need to step back for a minute and remember that if it wasn't for all these people who love and care about us, who would we be living our lives for? ourselves??? Pffffft, everyone needs to feel loved and everyone needs a little "thank you" now and again.
Now go and make sure your sweetheart, your family, your friends feel it, because I bet they would turn around and smile from ear to ear.
To everyone who has supported my blog so far by reading it, following it, receiving emails from it, I honestly really appreciate it. It is such good therapy for me to do this and I just want to say thank you!
Enjoy your evening and I will see you tomorrow :)
-xoxo-
Mel
